Have you ever walked past someone and said “hello” only to be ignored when you were perfectly audible? Or said “good morning” to someone in an elevator with no response? Or waved to a fellow walker or runner just to be looked at as though you had two heads?
I am often bewildered by how often this has happened to me. Just the other day I was taking my toddler for our usual morning walk/run and passed by a fellow mom who was also strolling her child. We were in our neighborhood and I, quite audibly, said “good morning” and gave a smile and a quick wave. The other mom made eye contact and kept walking with a sort of smirk/grin. I suppose I should have been ok with this as her version of a greeting, but would it have been difficult to say “good morning” or “hello” in kind? I wasn’t strolling over to her to ignite a conversation, just passing by, one mom to another.
I also can’t recall the number of times in the past I have stepped into an elevator with a coworker and said “good morning” just to be greeted by a smirk. Consistently. Only to also walk into the office with said person(s) and have them greet the next person they see with a good morning. Bizarre. You should know that I am not the peppy-morning-person cheerleader type. I am not highly caffeinated or overly bubbly. But I do smile and greet people with sincerity and kindness.
This has always dumbfounded me. I have never understood the refusal to greet or acknowledge. It seems so, I don’t know, rude. Doesn’t it? Well, I’ll just chalk it up to another one of those things and choose to believe maybe these non-greeters are having a rough day or are socially awkward or just uncomfortable with greeting others. Whatever it is, I’m going to keep on doing my greeting thing and keep a smile on my face even when the greeting isn’t reciprocated!